You can buy your hair when it won’t grow….
But if you can’t find you and find out who am I too… You have the ability to feel so damn unpretty….
As you may know by now, I am a child of the late 90s and 2000s. In the words of Juvenille for the 99s and the 2000s, however I digress. I remember when TLC (one of the greatest girl groups of all time) released the song Unpretty. I loved it because I believe it embodied many insecurities that the awkward middle school Erica was dealing with it.
I think we live in a fake world. You can buy makeup that completely distorts your face, you can filter yourself into perfect pictures, you can choose to share your best moments. You can literally curate your perfect life. I love how social media connects us to people we wouldn’t normally meet in real life but so often we find ourselves playing the comparison game.
You may ask, what exactly is the comparison game?
The comparison game is saying my life sucks because I haven’t accomplished these goals by 25 and 30. This person just hit these milestones in their business and I’m over here struggling .Or this person has the perfect family, had the ideal wedding, has the best skin, flawless hair; the list goes on and on and on.
However, I believe one of the only ways to free yourself from this comparison game is to be your own #hashtag goals; compare your progress from your own baseline to where you are progressing.
For example, I just recommitted myself to taking my fitness journey seriously. I reconnected with my previous trainer. We put together a solid plan and we’re working through the process. When I started working out with her again, we took pictures from day one! This is my own baseline. We take pictures every week to measure my progress. There’s no way we would compare my progress to someone else. The truth of the matter is that you do not know what they are doing. You can only control you. You are your #hashtag goals.